The use of the future tense itself is cool, with its knowledge of time, but I like even more the way that she has learned to hope. Even when she was little, she seemed to understand that things could get better, that (as I wrote in that blog, now almost two years ago,
if she is crying and you lay her down on the changing table, she stops crying long before you take her diaper off. When she suffers from colic, just passing her from one set of hands to another will often quiet her. Taking her clothes off before a bath, and she begins to smile. The future begins to take effect before it arrives, if that makes sense.Now, that hope can become verbal. The future, and the happiness that it promises (a chance to go swimming!) comes to colonize, or at least to imbue, the present.
My father always used to enjoy planning for a vacation as much as the trip itself: looking at maps and photos and travel guides became a way that the holiday would give pleasure long before the car left our driveway. I've since learned that that kind of planning can spoil the spontaneous surprises, the detours and unexpected friendships that may be the best part of travel, but I still like to think that way, I like the way that talking about the future, planning for it, can make the present better. Helena has already started doing that, and it's great fun to be a part of it.
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